Friday, November 24, 2017

Nigerian Thanksgiving

Thanks to the large American contingent of missionaries here in Jos, we actually get to celebrate Thanksgiving! Last night, one of the families opened their home to all of us single missionaries as well as the other families on their compound for a potluck Thanksgiving meal. There were 30 of us that came--Nigerians, Americans, Canadians, Koreans, Irish, and British!

I brought salad and was excited to use a ton of homegrown lettuce from my garden! We also had roast chicken (instead of turkey), mashed potatoes, bacon-wrapped green beans, J__'s homemade rolls, and even sweet potato casserole made with canned sweet potatoes and Stovetop brand stuffing made from supplies that a recent visitor brought from the US! There was also jallof rice for our Nigerian friends.

Oh, the dessert table! Real pecan pie, brownies, Nigerian-grown pumpkin pie, apple crisp, and an Irish "tray bake" called "Fifteens." I was in heaven!

As we gathered in the backyard at the super long table, it was so sweet to look around and see the the faces of the people I've come to know and love--the four other girls at my compound, several Nigerians who work in the SIM admin office and their families, visitors from the US, and two missionary families.

As we sat there, absolutely stuffed, I joked that we either needed a "dessert stomach" or a "hollow leg" in order to accommodate dessert, my Korean friend asked what a hollow leg was (I guess that's an American phrase). So the girl sitting next to me said that it's what allows you to keep eating and eating without getting full. And then the girl sitting on the other side of me said, "In Africa, we call that worms!"

Cue all of us dying of laughter! Ok, maybe you had to be there to get how funny that was!

A few minutes later, the son of the hosting family came out and excitedly told us he'd found an NFL game on the one American TV channel they got (Armed Forces broadcasting). So a few of us went and watched the Lions vs. the Vikings game for a bit. It's the first time I've seen American football in over 9 months and it was a great addition to a wonderful evening!

After dinner, we all gathered in the living room for a time of worship and sharing testimonies of thankfulness. One of the visitors led us in a bunch of familiar hymns and it was so cool to listen to all the various accents as we sang together!

Praise God for a wonderful Thanksgiving Day! excuse me while I go make two pumpkin pies and a green bean casserole for ANOTHER Thanksgiving meal tomorrow with the missionary doctor I work with and his family...

Thursday, November 16, 2017

Girls will be girls...

Sometimes I get tired of doing the same thing in the physical therapy clinic. But 75% of my patients have the same diagnosis (stress urinary incontinence), and the remaining 25% have one or more of a handful of diagnoses (urge urinary incontinence, fecal incontinence or seepage, urinary retention, urethral leaking, obstetric-caused foot drop, and leg weakness). I will usually get 1-5 visits with each woman, so it feels like I'm constantly starting over.

But this week was different...

One of my current patients, let's call her Fatima, is just a teenager. Following a stillbirth a few months, she developed significant foot drop as well as urinary incontinence. We are grateful that she doesn't have a fistula that requires surgical intervention, but her pelvic muscles are too weak to provide any assistance to the bladder and the urethral sphincter. The prolonged pressure on the nerves in her pelvis during the prolonged labor are the nerves that control the muscles in her legs, especially the muscle on the front of the shin that pulls the toes up. Now she must hike up her hip and really bend her knee to move that leg forward as she walks or else she'll drag her toes and trip.

I have limited diagnostic tools and treatment options. And even if more sophisticated treatments like biofeedback, internal electrical stimulation, AFOs (ankle-foot-orthoses), and neuromuscular re-education were available, I'd spend so long explaining it to the patient in order to 1) allow us to try it and not be afraid of it or 2) understand what she's supposed to do in coordination with the machine. So I use my own hands, a limited supply of Theraband, a pillow, a set of stairs, a plastic chair, and a exercise ball... and D__, a very patient nurse aide who interprets for me and is learning how to be a PT tech.

But some days you just gotta get out of the small PT room (12' x 15') and get moving! And if you're in Nigeria, you can't move without music! There's an open area just outside the door to the clinic that's usually full of plastic chairs where women wait to be seen in our Tuesday medical clinic. I decided to move our session out there so we could have more room.
The fabric panels on the right hide the floor-to-ceiling wooden shelves that are full of unsorted patient files from the early years of the VVF Center. Can you say dusty!!! I use the whiteboard to draw out exercises for patients as well as when I'm teaching D__. The treatment table was custom-built this past summer with a donation from the PT Assistant class at Northeast Texas Community College where I used to guest lecture. It's the perfect height for me... but my patients have to use the steps to get up there!

The PT clinic is down the hallway where that glass door is.

For the last week we've been working on weight shifting, single leg balance, normalizing the length of her steps as she walked, and entire leg strength on the affected side. Yesterday, we decided to incorporate all of those activities into a sort of therapeutic dance. D__ and I would slowly do each step and Fatima would mirror us as best as she could. After struggling with balance, I held out my hands so she could use me for balance. She was shy, but then both hands appeared from the folds of her hijab and she placed her palms in my hands and we began to dance.

I thumbed through my phone to an album of Nigerian worship music and hit play. As the music drifted down the hall to the rest of Evangel VVF Center, some of our youngest patients come to say hello. These three little girls are either awaiting surgery or recovering from surgeries to correct urinary problems they've had since birth. Usually, this is the result of a duplicated ureter that implanted into the vagina into the bladder so the urine produced by the kidney just flows out without any control. Other times, female genital cutting can damage the urethra and bladder, and still others have abnormal urinary systems due to birth defects like spina bifida and epispadius. 

One of our more adventurous young patients (the girl on the right in the red and black dress) marched right in and sat down on one of the wooden benches lining the hallway, the other two peeked around the corner until I invited them to join in the dancing with "ku zo" (you (plural) come). We all held hands, formed a circle, and mostly just swayed and step-tapped side to side. Occasionally D__ or I would call out "ki juya" (turn) or "yanzu, ki sa ƙafarki a baya" (now, put your foot behind) to mix things up a bit. I'm not sure Fatima understood my Hausa, but at least she could follow my demonstration.

As I stepped back to allow D__ a chance to work with Fatima, I was excited to see her putting weight evenly on both legs, better awareness of her problematic foot so she could do a grapevine step, and how hard she was trying to get up on her tippy-toes. But my heart was thrilled to see the smile on her face as she danced and had an opportunity to just be a teenager again. 

Girls all over the world love to dance. What a blessing it is to help Fatima get moving again. But please pray that each of these sweet girls will meet the Savior so that one day we'll hold hands and dance together again in heaven!
D__ in the middle and Fatima on the far right

I didn't catch any photos of us dancing, but I happened to catch this adorable picture of one girl "backing her baby." She even leaned over at the waist, placed the water bottle on her back, and reached around with the scarf to tie the "baby" on her back. When it slipped out, one of the other girls helped her tie Baby more securely. I'm reminded that young girls will mimic what they see their mothers doing. In the US, I've seen girls swaddle a pinecone in their jacket, pretend to feed it, and even "shush" me because I'm being too loud and "baby is sleeping." Here in Nigeria, a water bottle and a borrowed scarf help this young girl practice her Mommy-skills. Too precious!

Monday, November 13, 2017

What I've learned so far

In the eight months I've lived here, I've discovered a lot of things about Nigeria.
  1. When traffic comes to a standstill because of a car, it's not that the car broke down but that the car "has spoilt."
  2. Cilantro is called "coriander leaf." This makes so much more sense!
  3. It is perfectly acceptable to park alongside the road, even when it blocks a lane of traffic.
  4. It is acceptable to slow down in the right hand lane, pause, roll down your window, and buy phone credit/airtime from the boys selling it at nearly every major intersection.
  5. It is also acceptable for a driver to pause alongside a roadside vegetable stall, lean over the passenger seat and yell out the window to do their produce shopping.
  6. "I added a bit to the up because you're a bit like this (gestures by spreading out the hands)" means "I added some fabric to the top of your skirt because you're tall."
  7. While there's no fresh milk to be found, and boxed milk is expensive, there is a plethora of brands of powdered milk. Pick your brand and milkfat % carefully--some dissolve well in coffee/tea and other brands are suitable only for making homemade yogurt.
  8. Living in an agricultural country means that produce is pretty cheap... but it's also seasonal and spoils quickly.
  9. Think twice about killing that cockroach with Raid. The chemical smell lingers for days.
  10. I'm not sure why a package of 100 serviettes/paper napkins is $0.22 and a roll of 100 sheets of paper towels is $1.
  11. The first thing you do after waking up is to see if your ceiling fan is on. If it is, you can linger a bit before getting up and putting on the electric kettle for coffee. If the power's out, you'd better get up now and get the stovetop kettle going.
  12. There's an art to getting in and out of bed without lifting the mosquito net up too high or opening it for too long. Those little insects are amazing at getting inside and bothering you all night!
  13. If the power's on, do laundry. Who knows when it'll go off again.
  14. This time of year, even though it's still warm outside and you'd prefer to have the windows open to get a breeze, keep them closed. You might as well close the curtains too. Otherwise the fine dust will get all over everything in your house.
  15. Be prepared to greet everyone you meet, especially the compound guards and those you see every morning.
  16. There's something wonderful about Nigerian-made peanut butter. 
  17. Said peanut butter makes amazing peanut butter cookies.
  18. Drink a liter of water before and after a workout. You'll sweat it all out anyway.
  19. Don't drink coffee on Sunday mornings before church. It'll make sitting through a 2.5+ hour service really difficult!
  20. Don't underestimate how much money you'll need when you go shopping at one of the three grocery stores--if something is in stock, buy it now!
  21. Hoard the small bills--taxi and keke drivers rarely have change and can get annoyed by having to rifle through to give you change.
  22. Be prepared to wake up early and go to bed early. The traffic sounds will wake you up anyway.
  23. Appreciate the lingering after a meeting, visitors in your office, and stopping to chat with people along the road. There's no need to rush.
  24. When someone says that a program or event will start "by 9am," it really means "at 9am." Don't come early.
  25. When greeting a Nigerian in English, they will still use Hausa grammar and sentence structure. Whether you say "Yaya aiki" or "How is the work?" you'll should still respond with "Mun gode Allah" or "We thank God."
  26. Keep a wrap skirt nearby for when visitors show up at your house or you have to step outside for a minute. Wearing shorts outside is never appropriate.
  27. There are traffic rules, but very few know them and no one follows them. When stopped at a roundabout waiting to enter the circle, be prepared for cars or kekes coming up on either side of you trying to enter first.
  28. There's no such thing as jay-walking here and the few pedestrian overhead bridges aren't used. Just look both ways and run across.
  29. Roadside stalls sell cheap food (lunch and a drink for less than $1 sometimes). But be sure it's a place that someone you trust has recommended... gastrointestinal bugs are really annoying.
  30. When you feel ill, be sure to keep any eye on your temperature. Malaria should always be in the top 3 differential diagnoses.
  31. When people say that Jos is the nicest place in Nigeria, they're not joking! At least, weather-wise.
  32. You'll find misspellings, wrong word choice, and missing punctuation everywhere... even in official programs, menus, billboards, and businesses' signs.
  33. Everyone has a title. Some have two or three. I would be Miss Doctor Kate... and my pastor is Reverend Doctor Jeremiah.
  34. Protocol is important. If you're invited to speak at an event, make sure to acknowledge and greet all officials and dignitaries... or at least say, "I wish to stand on existing protocol..."
  35. Most streets have no name and very few have signs. You give directions to your house by saying which roundabout you live closest to and many businesses' addresses will be "such and such business name across from such and such well-known building."
  36. When someone says they'll "flash you" they mean that they'll call your number so you'll have it in your phone.
  37. Never underestimate the power of sending someone a .gif with some saying superimposed over a random photo of flowers, animals, or tourist attraction. This morning I received a .gif via WhatsApp from a Nigerian friend of mine: "Hot coffee. With you. Very Good Morning" overlaying a photo of a coffee cup and roses spinning.
  38. Only buy at the market what you can carry home.
  39. When flagging down a taxi, point in the direction you want to go at the next junction. Then if they're heading that direction, they'll slow down enough for you to call out your destination. If they want to take you there, they'll stop and let you get in.
  40. When shopping with other people, the shop owner can expect you to make change for each other if he doesn't have exact change.
  41. Anti-perspirant deodorant is a joke. Just take a shower every day and sweat like the rest of us.
  42. Learn to breathe through your mouth when driving through the meat market.
  43. Be sure to tell the schwarma or suya shops "Ba peppe" (no pepper), or else they'll douse your food with spicy Nigerian dried pepper. 
  44. "I wasn't feeling fine" is an appropriate reason for any absence.
  45. If you want to give something to a street child, either give them money or buy them something from a vendor's cart. Handing them candy from your purse can be bad since some would say you've cursed the candy.
  46. When looking for something in specific, expect to go to a lot of different shops. Or be willing to pay a bit extra at the first shop for them to send their shopboy around to find it for you.
  47. When bargaining, sometimes you don't have to say anything. Just keep quiet or have a surprised look on your face and they may start dropping the price anyway.
  48. When someone says the price is "one one hundred" it means the price is one hundred naira for each item, not 1,100 for all. The same goes for "two two fifty" which can mean 250 for one, or fifty for each of the two items.
  49. "NEPA has gone" means "the power's off"
  50. Church activities are a very important part of life. Similar to old-school tent revivals in the US which were conducted each evening for a week, there will be events every evening at the Nigerian church leading up to an anniversary service, youth week, or prayer service.

     51. Nigerians are generally friendly, welcoming, and kind. Despite the culture shock, it's really a wonderful place to live.

Monday, November 6, 2017

Girls' Transition House Dedication

A few weeks ago I had the chance to attend the dedication of the new building for the Girls' Transition Home. This is the ministry that two of the girls at my compound are directly involved with and I'd been hearing about preparations for the dedication for weeks!

Last year when Dad and I were visiting Nigeria and I was still in the application process to come and serve with SIM, we were able to visit the old Girls' Transition House and meet the girls. I knew that I wouldn't recognize all of them again or remember their names, but I was excited to see them again.

When we arrived, one of the girls showed us around the new building. It's divided into two long halls, one for the girls in middle school and one for the girls in high school, with six rooms in each hall. The girls live four to a room, which they like so that their friends and sisters are nearby. There's also a common room in each hall for discipleship groups to meet or for girls to hang out, and a small study room. In the future, the ministry would like to build an additional building as a vocational training room to teach the girls skills like sewing, baking, and hair dressing.

Outside, the place is surrounded by a wall of cement blocks to keep out stray animals, and beyond the wall there is plenty of land for farming. The girls were out there earlier this summer to plant maize and various fruit trees and already they're getting some of the harvest!

Once the tour was finished, we gathered in chairs under awnings set up in the courtyard.

Shortly, the program began. Several groups gave special numbers: the choir from the local church where the girls attend sang two beautiful songs about God's faithfulness, two girls read self-written poems, and then the girls all gathered to sing the Kristyn and Keith Getty song "By Faith." You can watch the video and hear for yourself (sorry for the background noise--the wind was really blowing that day!)

Afterwards, several people gave short messages of blessing and admonition to the girls, including the local church council leader, the president of our church denomination's wife, and SIM and Nigerian leaders of this ministry, and even the tribal leader of the surrounding community. You could really sense that this project has God's blessing and that the community is welcoming to these girls.
Jess ended up sitting with some of the girls during the program. They've really taken a shine to her!

True to Nigerian fashion, after the ceremony, we were all taken inside for a meal of fried rice and a piece of chicken along with a soda. With all the people to feed, I'm sure it took an army to cook that much food!

Then, as we were driving the forty-ish minutes back to Jos, we saw the girls carrying the plastic chairs they'd borrowed back to the church so they'd be ready for Sunday morning service the next day. Carrying a stack of chairs isn't as hard when you can carry them on your head!

Honestly, this land and the money to build the Girls' Transition Home was such a huge blessing! Finding the right piece of land took several years and during that time, a lady was generous enough to allow the 16 or so older girls to stay in her vacant home for free. Now that the permanent center has been built, the younger girls have graduated from the mixed-gender care center closer to town and have moved in to the older girls' house. There is now room for over forty girls!

That means there are a lot of school uniforms to buy at the beginning of each school year, that's a lot of rice and yams and vegetables to buy for their meals each day, and that's a lot of young hearts to care for. Pray with us that God will continue to bring in the finances and also bring a couple to serve as live-in house parents.

To  read more about the building of this wonderful home, click here: GOD'S GREAT MIRACLE AT GTH

You can give directly to fund the remaining building projects as well as the ongoing ministry at Girls' Transition Home by clicking here: DONATE HERE